I had yet another meltdown today. One of the junior testers at work had set the status of a work item I had completed to "Failed Testing". Thing is, he'd not actually tested it, as there was another issue that prevented him from testing…
When I first took the [Autism Spectrum Quotient (AQ)](https://psychology-tools.com/test/autism-spectrum-quotient/score) test, back on New Year's Eve 2012, I scored 43 out of 50. Since getting my "official" diagnosis, I have researched the…
*An important aspect of social relationships is the ability to empathise with the feelings of others. Empathy is a two-dimensional emotion. It has a cognitive component (theory of mind, or mindreading) and an affective component (emotional…
*It seems that most of the subjects on Channel 4's The Undateables are autistic. Not sure if this is for entertainment value or whether it's because being autistic really is a barrier to successful dating.* #### Honesty and Too Much…
*I had a meltdown exactly one week ago and I've been in shutdown ever since.* #### During my shutdown - I'm not aware that I am in shutdown at the starting stage. I just feel confused and off-balance. I can do nothing but be. I have no…
*There aren't too many differences between meltdowns and shutdowns. Both are extreme reactions to everyday stimuli, often the result of long term unresolved issues and are completely out of the control of the aspie.* *I personally tend to…
*I had a meltdown on Friday night, and 3 days later I'm still knocked for six, stuck in the meltdown hangover.* Since separating from Maria almost 12 months ago, I've been a member of several closed singles groups on Facebook. No one…
I got to work today and straight away two things ruined the day ahead. Firstly someone had used my chair in my absence on Friday and had adjusted the height and pitch. I spend a lot of time setting up a comfortable position and some…
*This is a piece that I wrote for the inhouse newsletter at work, back in 2017. I work for a tech company, so some of the terms might not make sense.* Hi, I'm Asperger King and I'm a Senior Developer. Until a few years ago I had no idea…
I remember being shown this video during my 20 week self help group sessions. I was amazed at his memory as I often can't remember what I had for breakfast. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsJbApZ5GF0
*About a year ago my daughter started to suffer with anxiety and depression, so recently I've been attending some of the excellent free course provided by [Greater Manchester Mental Health NHS Foundation Trust Recovery…
*Following on from parts*[*one*](/childhood/introduction-part-one/)*,*[*two*](/relationships/introduction-part-two/)*and [three](/change-resistance/introduction-part-3-work-history/), I'm giving an rough outline of the course of my life to…
*Statistics show that only 16% of people in the UK diagnosed with Aspergers are in full time employment. I've never been without work since I graduated from university in 1996.* From the age of 10, when I first saw the film The Dam…
*Until recently there has been just one period of my life when I've lived alone, and that was from the age of 28 to 38. During that period the only person that I had to feed was myself so I could pretty much do what I wanted, and I did.* I…
After I passed my A-Levels I departed for Salford University to read Geography. I hated my first year. I was in halls of residence and I didn't make any friends. I actually went to Uni with a friend that I'd been to both primary school and…
When you hear the phrase "problem solving" you probably assume that there is something wrong that needs a resolution. Whilst that is certainly a correct assumption, the phrase means much more than that. We all problem solve at different…
Throughout my life the phrases "You're not stupid, work it out" , "You're an intelligent guy, work it out", "You have no common sense" or variants there-of seem to have been directed at me constantly from all directions. At work, at play,…
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*As I've mentioned elsewhere, I wasn't diagnosed until I was 40. I think that the diagnosis came so late on in life because of how I was brought up. Events in my childhood could easily explain away my autistic traits. So I thought I'd talk…
I was just browsing Gavin Bollard's excellent "Life With Asperger's" blog and came across the concept of "[Autistic Burnout](https://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2018/06/autistic-burnout-causes-and-prevention.html)" for the first time.…
Is it? How do you know that? It's very presumptuous of you. I could be having the worst time ever, and usually am. "Good Morning" has to be the most pointless piece of small talk going. The more cheerfully said, the more irritating it is.…
*Since being diagnosed I have been able to look back on my life and recognise that I have had meltdowns throughout, but they were minor in comparison to one specific episode, which to me was my first "proper" meltdown. It was certainly the…
Today I arranged with my 17 year old daughter, who doesn't live with me, to pick her up at 2pm and we'd go walk the dogs for an hour at a local nature reserve. Just as I was getting into the car at 3 minutes to 2 (she doesn't live far…
I work for one of the world's largest online technology companies as a Web Application Developer. When I was researching Aspergers I came across this logo online and decided to use it as my avatar on the company's internal bug tracking…
It's almost 5 years since was diagnosed with Asperger's, aged 41. Since then I've been on one hell of a roller-coaster of a ride, and during that time I've discovered that all the weird difficult people in my life are in fact normal, and…